Why Your Teenager Needs Their Independence
Everyone goes through adolescence. How we get through it determines who we are as adults. For some, this phase includes rebelliousness and taking risks. For others, it includes striving to be the absolute best. There are many different paths that a teenager can take on their path to adulthood, but it’s key that they’re moving forward on that path. Having independence and responsibility prepares a teen better for adulthood than anything else. Here’s what…
…Having their own income does
Having a job is a great first step on the path to adulthood. Not only does it give a teen a taste of the workforce life they will experience after they graduate from schooling, but it also gives them an independent income. This income is theirs to do with as they wish, meaning that even if they do partake in some irresponsible spending, it is their lesson to learn and at no cost to you, the parent. Stay away from hazardous work environments and ensure that work hours don’t crowd out other important activities (like school and friends). The goal is a healthy, balanced life.
This is also a fantastic time to start building up their credit score. Having a great credit score once they leave schooling (either high school, college, or university) will greatly benefit them in the years to come. They won’t worry about having to build one up!
… Having their own car does
This does not mean you should buy your teenager a car. In fact, it is very beneficial if you and your teen research and select a car for them to buy (with their part-time job). A used car is ideal in this situation. Though there are dangers to buying an old car, not all used cars are decades old. Buying from a car dealership ensures that the car is satisfactory in quality, usable, and as described. Furthermore, car dealerships will, say, offer many models of Ford Ranger, meaning you will find one that suits your needs and budget.
Have your teen play a big part or a whole part in buying it. Have them save the 20% deposit (or else risk paying far more than you should). Saving and owning their own car will instil responsibility, and, once they own it (and are responsible for the associated costs) they will be accountable for it. The added benefits of freedom and exploration that come with owning your own car and travelling where you want are just added benefits.
Your teen needs to feel responsible and accountable for themselves. Don’t try to fix all their mistakes for them. Let them try to solve their own problems first, and be there for them when they absolutely need you. Build them up as an adult, rather than try to protect them like children. A bonus is to teach them crucial life skills that schools often ignore, like paying taxes and how to lease or finance big-ticket purchases. Treat your teenager like the adult they will become, and you’ll find yourself raising an adult.
Written by: James Daniels. James is a freelance writer, business enthusiast, a bit of a tech buff, and an overall geek. He is also an avid reader, who can while away hours reading and knowing about the latest gadgets and tech, whilst offering views and opinions on these topics